When you’re at odds

Oh these two.

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We’re only on our second day of Summer vacation and these two are already at each other’s throats.  Short of us keeping them outside or busy 100% of the time, there’s usually some sort of bickering going on.

“She’s touching me!”

“Ryder made me fall down, Mommy!”

“Addison I’m going to the bathroom!  Shut the door!”

That last one is probably said by everyone in the house (haha).  I’ve been trying to come up with creative ways to make sure everyone gets along and during those times when those creative ways don’t work, I’ve been coming up with even more inventive ways of “punishment” to make sure they work as a team and usually end up giggling and then hugging and apologizing to one another.  Win-win in my book.
I remember in High School we had these mini competitions that we were graded on each year.  I always hated them.  I mean loathed them with a fiery passion.  Now I’ve started implementing them with my kids.  How you ask?  Wall sits.  Remember those?  Sitting with your back flush against the wall, knees bent at a 90 degree angle, and your hands either also flat against the wall or straight out in front of you.  My thighs would burn like no other!  I actually did very well though.  I would self compete and beat the time limit to make sure I got an “A” each time.
It’s quite funny for everyone actually, and neither of them can last longer than 10 seconds.  I love that although this is technically exercise as a punishment, they are both against the wall at the same time in the same place doing the same act.  They end up working together to help one another and cheer eachother on.  They giggle, and drop to their bottoms and get up to try again.  By the end, they’ve become a team and have shown support and love to one another. 
Little do they know, that’s what I wanted all along.

What are some creative ways you’ve come up with to keep your kids from driving eachother crazy?

GRWM – Kat Von D Shade + Light Palettes

It’s not very often that you find a really great all matte palette, then Kat Von D decided to make one of the best ones I’ve ever found.  I love that you can create so many awesome looks with it, and it’s so pigmented it makes every penny spent well worth it!

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Products used – 

Laura Mercier Radiance Primer

MAC Pro Longwear Nourishing Waterproof Foundation in NC15

MAC Pro Longwear Concealer in NW15

Kat Von D Shade Light Contour Palette

Kat Von D Shade Light Eye Palette

Stila Kitten Eye Shadow

MAC Wash and Dry blush in Crisp Whites

MAC Lipstick in Flamingo

For an in depth tutorial from start to finish (full face) then check out the video below!

How to Rock a Red Lip

Happy Wednesday, Loves!  Back at it today with another tutorial!  I have had a lot of requests lately for a tutorial on how to create a seamless red lip.  It’s easier than it sounds, and all you need is a few simple items!

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In as little as 3 quick steps, you too, can rock a red lip!  Check out the video below to see how I got this look!

 

 

Yes, you can breastfeed. Now get over it.

Let’s preface this post with a few words from the heart.  I am absolutely a people pleaser.  I do not enjoy hurting peoples feelings, or making others feel bad about themselves.  I firmly believe that you should treat others as you wish to be treated, and what goes around comes around.  For the past two years I’ve made it a point to keep this a positive space, however, sometimes things just need to be addressed.  

With society as it is today I feel as though people are extremely harsh to one another while being overly sensitive at the same time.  We are overly critical of one another (women especially) and frankly it’s just sad.  Sad because I see the world my daughter is growing up in, and hope to God that she follows her own heart instead of being lead by someone else’s.  By now I’m sure you’re wondering what I’m referring to, so let’s jump right in.  Breastfeeding.

I want to start by saying that I breast and bottle fed both of my kids.  I am neutral regarding both forms because, let’s face it, so long as your baby is happy and healthy then how you choose to feed your child is your own business and you should never be chastised for it.  I personally was bottle fed as a baby mostly because, 32 years ago, breastfeeding wasn’t something they stressed to the majority of new Mothers.  I can attest that I grew up happy, healthy and I never felt a lack of connection with my Mother or Father as a result. 

When I found out I was pregnant with my son Ryder I knew right away that breastfeeding was the route that I wanted to go.  I would give it the “‘ole College try” and see where it led us.  Well.  The little stinker couldn’t latch on well.  I tried everything.  And I mean everything.  Nipple shields, breastfeeding specialist after specialist after specialist, different positions, etc.  You name it, I probably tried it.  After many tearful attempts, and me feeling as though I was a failure as a mother, I made the decision that I would pump every time my son needed to eat and my husband would feed him with a bottle.  This lasted for 3 months until he finally understood what he needed to do, then everything fell into place.  There were a few reasons why I felt that I had to do both:  I wanted to ensure that I was still providing my son with the nutrients he needed.  I also loved that my husband had the chance to love on our newest bundle while he needed to eat.  I think it gave us both the best of both worlds.  

Fast forward 2 years.  Our daughter, Addison, came into this world and I, yet again, had the same intention to breastfeed her.  Again…difficulties arose.  She had the general idea of what she needed to do…she just needed a lot of coaching, a lot of naked time during feedings, and a lot of tickling to keep her awake long enough to eat.  At her first check up she hadn’t gained any weight which worried the doctor because she had lost 10% of her birth weight while she was in the hospital.  As a result we had to supplement with formula which honestly didn’t bother me much because in the end it was about keeping my baby healthy, and making sure she thrived.  I, again, pumped, stored, fed.  Pumped.  Stored.  Fed (so exhausting…sigh).  Luckily around the second month of her life we finally got into the groove of things and all was right in the world.

I never really felt the need to share my breastfeeding stories until now because I honestly thought that nobody would care and it was something very personal to me.  Now that breastfeeding and normalizing breastfeeding is so prevalent (and a hot button issue) I wanted to take a moment to touch on a few things…  

First of all.  For those of us Mothers out there that have difficulty nursing our babies, and you keep trying beyond a shadow of a doubt, I just want to give you a virtual hug and high five (woo!).  With the slew of emotions surging through our bodies during this transition, having problems feeding your baby is the last thing you want to worry about when all you want to do is love on your sweet little critter!  That being said, there are other Mothers out there that have zero problems and from the second their babies exit the womb their babies eat like tiny little rock stars.  I think that’s awesome!

What I don’t think is so awesome is those individuals that essentially shame Mothers that can’t or won’t breastfeed their babies.  I would like to give those Mothers a big fat virtual middle finger (whammy!).  Let’s face it, if it’s not your baby then why do you care?  Why do you feel the need to make somebody feel like a failure for something that isn’t in their control?  Why do you feel the need to post pictures about it via social media for all to see?  I believe, personally, that is just a measure to get some attention.  Honestly.  Seriously!  Why do you feel that it’s appropriate?  This is obviously some form of extension from feminism, to be able to do what you want with your body in order to provide your baby with food, but you can still do that and have some modesty…to be a lady.  Proud, powerful, independent, beautiful and equal to all.  

However it seems that some of my fellow gender is under the belief (probably due to fanatical and misguided women such as Lena Dunham) that you cannot coexist and have your power as a woman and still hold to the virtue and values that has made us powerful, independent and respected.  If you use a cover in public to hide your breast while you are feeding your little one that isn’t sacrificing your power and individuality.  I know, agree and support the underlying, basis of the belief that breastfeeding is a natural and beautiful bonding experience between mother and child, but I think its just gotten twisted and perverted to become a soapbox for a different issue…individuality.  You don’t have to sacrifice your modesty for your power, you don’t have to trade your virtue for your belief and you don’t have to give up your self respect and your respect for others in order to have your soapbox.

I think thats what society has lost…self respect and respect for others.  I understand that you feel you have a right to feed your baby wherever you want while exposing yourself, but others, including myself, think it is tacky, indecent and offensive.   I don’t understand the trade off between your belief that you can whip out your breasts when and wherever you please and having self respect and pride in your modesty…which us, as women and ladies with taste and class, should hold dear to our pride as strong, equal women.  

In closing, if you disagree with all this (which you are more than entitled to, I just ask that you do so with the respect and maturity to do so without being offensive and/or confrontational) then please keep in mind how your child will feel some years down the road where you are showing pictures to him/her where you are exposed.  I imagine, and hope, that you are teaching your child to have self respect, modesty and respect for society…the best way to achieve that is to lead by example, not just for children, but for the world in general.  

We are powerful.  We are individuals.  We are equal to others.  We just don’t have to force it down people’s throats…you expect people to respect your wishes, beliefs and identity but you absolutely should respect theirs as well if you truly believe in equality.  

Lorac Alter Ego Heartbreaker Palette and a GIVEAWAY!

Summer is upon us and that means bright cheery colors, and fun in the sun.  I can’t wait until school is out for my little man, and I definitely can’t wait to get some much needed Summertime shopping accomplished! 

Speaking of bright cheery colors, I have recently fallen in love with the newest Lorac Alter Ego Palette in “Heartbreaker.”  Thankfully I was able to snag both of their newest palettes because they of course had to be limited edition.  Such a ploy to only make me want them more, am I right?  Anywho.  This Heartbreaker Palette is the epitome of Summer.  It has an array of neutral and bright/fun shadows that will surely brighten up your Summer makeup looks.

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I have to say that of course my favorites are the two bronze colors.  A close second and third are the coral, and purple….oh that purple is goregous. 

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I love this palette for a few reasons.

  1. It’s Lorac which = buttery, pigmented shadows that have amazing color pay off.
  2. Although this palette does have a few shadows that I don’t see myself using regularly (i.e. the bright blue and silver) I think I’m definitely going to be creating some fun looks with it which makes this a winner in my book.

If I could describe this palette in one word it would be – necessary. 

  • There’s a perfect transition shade that plays well with all of the other shadows.
  • I have yet to experience an obscene amount of fallout.
  • All of the shadows are so buttery and pigmented that a little goes a long way.
  • It’s compact which means it’s perfect for traveling.
  • It has a full size mirror in it which is always awesome when applying makeup.
  • The packaging is sturdy, cute, and bright. 

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Although this palette was a limited edition, and unfortunately is no longer available, don’t fret!  I made it a point to snag an extra one so that I can do a fun little giveaway for ONE lucky winner!!  How exciting is that?  All you have to do is follow the widget below, and be sure to stay tuned for some fun makeup tutorials featuring this little gem in the near future!

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